Your brain, your Pilot, receives guidance on your best path forward for any situation, challenge, or goal, from your nonconscious mind, your Pathfinder.

Research (Wilson 2007) suggests that your Pathfinder processes about 11 million bits of data a second.

And every four seconds it pulls back from a spotlight focus on what’s going on, and turns on the floodlight to look at the bigger picture. (Fiebelkorn 2018)

For every option you consider, your Pathfinder works out your best path forward. (Gallivan 2017)

But it is your brain, Your Pilot, who makes the decisions. It filters the guidance from your Pathfinder to hand pick what fits with its fear-based perspective of the world. (Shadlin 2017)

And whenever it manages to find information that supports that limited view, it rewards you with a shot of dopamine - the feel good neurotransmitter. (Gorman 2016)

So those pre-wired fear-based perspectives keep getting reinforced and nothing in your life changes for you.

It’s like you are stuck in a taxi with a stressed out, negative thinking cabbie, who can’t bring himself to trust the guidance of the better informed GPS!

You have all the resourses you need to achieve a value fulfilling outcome for any situation, challenge, or goal you have in your daily life.

But your brain is too scared by the shadows of hovering pterodactyls it is self creating! He’s afraid to trust in your Pathfinder. And he doesn’t even notice that this behavior isn’t working very well for you!

Which returns us to the question: what can you do?

Well, as I said, generic mindfulness practice will help, but it isn’t specifically optimized to sync your brain with the guidance of your nonconscious mind.

And a lot of people find it too difficult to motivate themselves to practice mindful meditation daily.

But what if you could help your brain rewire itself to take advantage of those inner resources, without you having to practice?

You can.

You can be the compassionate mindfulness coach your brain needs.

You’re a pretty amazing person. You’ve accomplished a lot. And the things you think or do that cause you stress, or hold you back from living the life you want, are not your fault.

It’s just the way your brain got wired as you were growing up.

You see, your brain informs all your thoughts and actions.

I know it feels like you are consciously making a decision but research (Haynes 2008) suggests that the brain has already come to a conclusion ten seconds before you even know about it.

Your brain is over protective of your self esteem. (Yeah, even if it seems like your worst critic - I didn’t say it was always good at this job!)

And because of how it got wired, it has what’s called a ‘negativity bias’ (Cavioppo 2014) especially when you don’t know what’s going to happen (Petro 2018).

So it’s no wonder that you often feel stressed out and unfulfilled!

Your brain is always talking to you and that’s okay, but mostly it talks about all the negative things going on in your life as they happen.

But worse than that, it talks incessantly about all the negative things that it thinks will happen in your life!

The crazy thing is research (Leahy 2006) suggests that 85% of what your brain fears will happen, never happens.

And of the negative stuff that does happen, it turns out that you are usually more capable than your overprotective brain gave you credit for, and can handle those situations.

The problem isn’t just how your brain got wired, though. It’s that your brain runs too often on automatic pilot.

It okays decisions without even checking.

It doesn’t see ‘what’s going on’ as it is. Instead it sees an imagined version it’s created.

And research (Ehinger 2017) suggests it prefers the imaginary version to reality!

So what can you do to transform your brain into a more reliable ally?

Research (Goyal 2014) suggests that any generic form of mindfulness will help, because they all reduce stress, and as a result your brain works better.

But I wanted to do better for you. I wanted a form of mindfulness that would focus specifically on the things that are most important to you.

Copyright 2019 by Peter M Fellows. All Rights Reserved.

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You are the Coach. Meet your

new mindfulness student,

your brain, your Pilot.


Help your Pilot learn to trust in, and act upon, the guidance of your nonconscious mind,

your Pathfinder.

My brain avatar: “Milo.”

My nonconscious mind avatar: “Selena.”

With The B-Sync Process

you coach an avatar

representing your brain

to practice mindfulness

I developed the B-Sync Mindfulness Process based upon research on third person self talk (Kross 2014), on using interrogatory self talk (Senay 2017), on how you find it easier to feel compassion for others than for yourself (Neff 2015), on self-distancing from your thoughts, rather than identifying with them (Kross 2005), on the focusing value of using a name (Lupyan 2011) and more.

You are entering a new relationship with your brain, so you need a name for him. Choose an ‘avatar,’ or imaginary character to represent your brain and one to represent your nonconscious mind.

I chose a version of Dobby for my brain avatar because, as I wrote in my LinkedIn article: “Why Your Brain Is Just Like Dobby - Harry Potter’s House Elf,” that character shares similar traits with the brain.

Do the same for your nonconscious mind. I chose Audrey Hepburn (in her role as ‘Hap’ the angel in the movie ‘Always’) for my nonconscious mind avatar.

The names are important, but so are characteristics: helpful, kind, devoted to your value fulfillment. It is only how your brain got wired that masks his true character.

And you can let that name and character evolve with you.

My brain avatar: “Milo.”

When you embark on this journey, I'll be there, helping you learn how to coach your brain.

You’ll get

     - a 10 minute guided B-Sync Mindfulness Process mp4

     - a pdf handbook: “Finding Your Best Path Forward”

     - Ongoing coaching including 1 minute video-coaching sessions, Facebook Live sessions, and more.

Perhaps best of all, you’ll be a part of a community of people doing the same thing: coaching their brain to become more mindful so they can live the life they really want!