Your brain, your Pilot, receives guidance on your best path and needed resources for any situation, challenge, or goal, from your nonconscious mind, your Pathfinder.
Research (Wilson 2007) suggests that your Pathfinder processes about 11 million bits of data a second.
And every four seconds it pulls back from a spotlight focus on what’s going on, and turns on the floodlight to look at the bigger picture. (Fiebelkorn 2018)
For every option you consider, your Pathfinder works out your best path forward. (Gallivan 2017)
But it is your brain, your Pilot, who makes the decisions. It filters the guidance from your Pathfinder to hand pick what fits with its fear-based construction of the world. (Shadlin 2017)
And whenever it manages to find information that supports that limited view, it rewards you with a shot of dopamine - the feel good neurotransmitter. (Gorman 2016)
So those pre-wired fear-based perspectives keep getting reinforced and nothing in your life changes for you.
The limo that is supposed to be taking you to your destination is being driven by a well-meaning, but completely stressed out, negative thinking guy, who can’t bring himself to trust the guidance of the better informed GPS!
You have all the resourses you need to achieve a value fulfilling outcome for any situation, challenge, or goal you have in your daily life.
But your brain is too scared by the self-created shadows of hovering pterodactyls that it sees! He’s afraid to trust in your Pathfinder. And he doesn’t even notice that this behavior isn’t working very well for you!
Which returns us to the question: what can you do?
Well, as I said, generic mindfulness practice will help, but it isn’t specifically optimized to sync your brain with the guidance of your nonconscious mind.
And a lot of people find it too difficult to motivate themselves to practice mindful meditation daily.
But what if you could help your brain rewire itself to take advantage of those inner resources, without you having to practice?
You can be the compassionate mindfulness coach your brain needs.
You’re a pretty amazing person. You’ve accomplished a lot. And the things you think or do that cause you stress, or hold you back from living the life you want, are not your fault.
It’s just the way your brain happened to get wired as you were growing up.
You see, your brain informs all your thoughts and actions.
I know it feels like you are consciously making a decision but research (Haynes 2008) suggests that the brain has already come to a conclusion ten seconds before you even know about it.
Your brain is over protective of your self esteem. (Yeah, even if it seems like your worst critic - I didn’t say it was always good at this job!)
And because of how it got wired, it has what’s called a ‘negativity bias’ (Cavioppo 2014) especially when you don’t know what’s going to happen (Petro 2018).
So it’s no wonder that you often feel stressed out and unfulfilled!
Your brain is always talking to you, and that’s okay, except it mostly talks about how bad the things are that have happened to you, or are going to happen to you.
The crazy thing is, research (Leahy 2006) suggests that 85% of what your brain fears will happen, never happens.
And of the challenges that do happen, it turns out that you are usually more capable than your overprotective brain gave you credit for, and can handle those situations.
The problem isn’t just how your brain got wired, though.
It’s that your brain runs too often on automatic pilot.
It okays decisions without even checking with you.
It doesn’t see ‘what’s going on’ as it is. Instead it sees an imagined version it has constructed, like a dream.
And research (Ehinger 2017) suggests it prefers the dreaming version to reality!
So what can you do to transform your brain into a more reliable ally (because he wants to be helpful)?
Research (Goyal 2014) suggests that any generic form of mindfulness will help. They all turn down your brain’s interference with the guidance of your nonconscious mind, so things work better.
But I wanted to do better for you. I wanted a form of mindfulness that would focus specifically on the things that are most important to you.
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You are the Coach. Meet your
new mindfulness student,
your brain, your “Pilot.”
Help your Pilot learn to trust in, and act upon, the guidance of your nonconscious mind,
My brain avatar: “Milo.”
My nonconscious mind avatar: “Selena.”
With the B-Sync Process
you coach an avatar
representing your brain
to practice mindfulness
There is a ton of research out there on positive psychology, cognitive neuroscience, and mindfulness. And there is more coming every day.
Since I’m not limited by being a specialist, I was (and I am) able to look at all the pieces of the puzzle.
So I developed the B-Sync Mindfulness process from cutting edge research such as the data on third person self talk (Kross 2014), on interrogatory self talk (Senay 2017), on how we find it easier to feel compassion for others than for ourselves (Neff 2015), on the power of self-distancing from our thoughts, rather than identifying with them (Kross 2005), on the focusing value of using names rather than labels (Lupyan 2011) and more.
You are entering a new relationship with your brain, so you need a name for him. Choose an ‘avatar,’ or imaginary character to represent your brain, and one to represent your nonconscious mind.
I chose a version of Dobby for my brain avatar because, as I wrote in my LinkedIn article: “Why Your Brain Is Just Like Dobby - Harry Potter’s House Elf,” that character shares similar traits with the brain.
Do the same for your nonconscious mind. I chose Audrey Hepburn (in her role as ‘Hap’ the angel in the movie ‘Always’) for my nonconscious mind avatar.
The names are important, but so are characteristics: helpful, kind, devoted to your value fulfillment. It is only how your brain got wired that masks his true character.
And you can let that name and character evolve with you.
When you embark on this journey, I'll be there, helping you learn how to coach your brain.
My brain avatar: “Milo.”
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