THE RESEARCH BEHIND
The research into mindfulness, neuroplasticity, and positive psychology has exploded over the last decade and I’ve immersed myself in it like a psychological Sherlock Holmes.
From that forensic examination the foundational dynamics of Mindfulness Pathfinding arose.
And I am not finished!
Every new study that comes out is scoured for value and relevance.
Every person I coach becomes a collaborator because the most important thing is that Mindfulness Pathfinding has to work, and it has to work for you.
(If you think you might enjoy reading about the research findings that support Pathfinding, then definitely check out my short, but easy-to-read book STOP!)
Pathfinding: The Technique
Pathfinding is nothing more than a formalized way of restoring the natural communication between you, your brain, and your non-conscious mind in areas where the brain's culturally instilled beliefs hamper that communication.
We employ a form of “distanced self-talk” in which you engage your brain (and to a lesser extent, your non-conscious mind) as if it were a person.
The purpose of doing this is not simply to more effectively solve problems and achieve goals, but to also do so in a way that “maximizes fulfillment.”
This works best for you, for other stakeholders, and for the greater community. It also happens to be (research suggests) the natural predisposition of your non-conscious mind.
You can initiate a Pathfinding session anytime, even when nothing is going on.
You can also initiate a Pathfinding session when you find yourself in a less-than-fulfilling situation, facing a tough problem, or wondering how best to achieve a goal.
1. OPENING A PATHFINDING SESSION
You open a Pathfinding session by thinking about your “project” (whatever you are seeking to maximize fulfillment for).
2. RECONNECTING PILOT TO PATHFINDER
You ask Pilot (as if s/he were a person) to observe what comes up when you ask Pathfinder something like:
“We want to maximize fulfillment here.
Where is our best path forward?”
Then just look and see what happens.
3. COACHING PILOT
Now the mindfulness part comes in at this point, and it is here that you can help Pilot by acting as her/his Mindfulness Pathfinding coach.
Because you can reassure Pilot that whatever comes up is okay.
Whatever comes up is exactly what should come up.
It may be an impulse for you to take some practical action (like, “Phone him/her and ask”), or an inspiration.
Or it may be that the next step is some non-conscious movement that the brain needs to take itself.
It may be an insight that levels up your experience by changing how you and Pilot see some situation.
It may be an emotional feeling, or a physical sensation that Pilot initiates to level up your experience by changing how the situation feels.
Or it might be an improvement Pilot brings about in your performance or in the physical health of your body.
I can’t know what you will get. This is your journey.
We’ll just look at what’s coming up together and I’ll work with you on that.
4. REINFORCING CONNECTING WITH PATHFINDER
Acknowledge whatever comes up.
You are reinforcing a new neural pathway. It helps to acknowledge whatever comes up by saying something like:
“Okay, there’s that.
What else is coming up now?”
Sometimes, when something comes up that about where Pilot is resisting, s/he may start going into a long story about that.
That’s okay, but that’s not Pathfinding.
You can help Pilot with Distraction and Curiosity by saying something like:
“Okay, there’s that.
You can certainly continue with that,
but...what else is coming up now?”
Pilot is easily distracted; and Pilot is always curious to see what else is going on now...and now is always changing.
This coaching on your part will lead her/him to pause and then pivot back to Pathfinding and the present moment.
5. CLOSING A PATHFINDING SESSION
The end of any Pathfinding session, “closure,” is whenever you or Pilot feel some sense that s/he has leveled up her/his experience somewhat.
That might be getting clarity, physically feeling better, getting a new idea on what action to take.
I can’t predict exactly what will constitute closure in any session for you because this is your journey.
But I will be here to coach you, online, at The Source (a private Facebook Group) for only $8 each month.
Start anytime. Stop anytime.