A difference between meditation and Pathfinding:
Mindfulness meditation is about being.
You take a step back to disengage from the World.
Your stress fades away because you are doing nothing for a few minutes each day.
Mindfulness Pathfinding is about doing.
You take a step forward to engage the World.
Your stress fades away because you are letting your non-conscious mind guide your brain on each step you take.
In your life there are things you want to do, and there are things that come up.
And the two questions we all have for these are:
How do I get a better experience here? and how do I get a better outcome?
Fortunately, for any situation, problem, or goal, at the level of your deeper, non-conscious mind, you already have the answers.
At that level, you monitor existing and developing conditions to determine your “best path forward” to get the most fulfillment and expression of your capabilities, passions, and values.
That guidance, updated moment by moment, is streamed 24/7 to your brain.
Your brain, is in effect your Pilot, and your non-conscious mind, your deeper Self, is your Navigator.
Your brain is at the controls. It decides what to do, what guidance to accept.
But much too often, your brain’s fear-based thinking interferes with your non-conscious mind’s guidance. It blocks, filters, or distorts it.
And you suffer the consequences: lousy experience, poor outcome.
But you can help your Pilot see more clearly.
You can help your brain to become more mindful of what comes up, and her/his reaction to what comes up.
You serve as compassionate mindfulness coach and your brain is your eager to serve student.
Over your lifetime, your brain acquired (wired in) a rather negative view of Life, the World, and Yourself.
It is always trying to protect and/or shore up your self-worth from threats, real or imagined.
Whenever it perceives what it believes is a threat (and it sees threats everywhere), it defaults to a fight, flight, or freeze reaction.
Using Pathfinding you can teach your brain (wire in) a new response to whatever happens.
Your brain can learn to mindfully notice its initial reaction to what happens, pause, pivot, and proceed to look at what other options for action come up.
That makes all the difference!
By interrupting it’s habitual fear-based reaction, your brain becomes aware of the better informed guidance of your non-conscious mind on what to do next.
Pathfinding can be used to level up your experience, and get a better outcome for any situation, problem, or goal, in your...
- relationships, health, work, passions, finances -
But for me, the ultimate goal of Pathfinding is to increase your brain’s sense of self-efficacy.
You can help your brain learn that:
No matter what comes up, it can find a path to fulfillment in both the experience and the outcome.
Where is the stress or anxiety if, despite the worst that can happen, your brain is confident s/he can always have a fulfilling experience and get a fulfilling outcome?
When you coach your brain with Mindfuless Pathfinding, you are saying to him/her, that, no matter what comes up...
“You’ve got this!”
Pathfinding is essentially about helping your brain learn to trust in and rely upon the guidance of your non-conscious mind for what to do next.
You can use Pathfinding whenever you want, and you don’t need to close your eyes, or retreat inwardly to do so.
You coach your brain using a form of “distanced self-talk,” so your brain is Pilot and your non-conscious mind is Navigator.
Address your brain, Pilot, as if s/he were a person. Say something like:
What comes up when you ask Navigator,
“How do I maximize fulfillment here?”
And by “here” you mean “for this project.”
It doesn’t matter if it is a situation you want a better experience for (like a boring meeting), or a problem (like how to handle a problem employee), or a goal (like becoming regional manager). They are all referred to as projects.
Coach Pilot to triage whatever comes up.
If what comes up doesn’t seem helpful in leveling up your experience or getting you a better outcome, that’s okay.
Coach Pilot to label that as a piece of the puzzle you are not working on right now and table it for another time.
“Okay, there’s that. What else comes up.”
If what comes up is a whole story about something,that’s okay.
Coach Pilot to pause the narrative before it gets going by acknowledging what came up by saying something like,
“Okay, there’s that!”
And then pivot, and proceed to “just looking” again by asking,
“What else comes up?”
Pilot, who is endlessly curious about what’s next, will detach from the story and return to just looking to see what comes up next.
And whatever comes up, you coach PIlot to acknowledge with “Okay, there’s that,” and then follow up with, “What else comes up?”
Most often your best path forward comes in the form of a thought: an inspiration, an insight, an impulse to action.
But it’s not always verbal.
It might come as a physical change: a sensation of excitement that motivates you, a lowering of your blood pressure, a decrease in pain, an improved sense of balance.
And here’s a twist:
The next thing to come up might be an external event. Someone walks into the room, your phone rings, a baby cries.
Whatever it is, coach Pilot to acknowledge it with “Okay, there’s that.” and keep Pathfinding. “What else comes up?”
You do this because you are coaching Pilot to always deal with “what is.”
The only way to have a better experience and get your best outcome is to engage what comes up, internally and externally.
Some might wonder why they need to act as if their brain was a person.
We are coaching the brain to respond to what comes up in life by looking for internal guidance. But we are also coaching it so that this way of responding to life becomes an Unconscious Procedural Memory.
I’ll coach you to do this, online, at The Source, a private Facebook Group for only $8 each month, no contract, no minimum commitment.
THE RESEARCH BEHIND
The research into mindfulness, neuroplasticity, and positive psychology has exploded over the last decade and I’ve immersed myself in it like a psychological Sherlock Holmes.
That forensic examination is where the foundation for Mindfulness Pathfinding arose.
And I am not finished!
Every new study that comes out is scoured for value and relevance.
Every person I coach becomes a collaborator because the most important thing is that Mindfulness Pathfinding has to work, and it has to work for you.
(If you think you might enjoy reading about the research behind this approach to applied mindfulness, then definitely check out my short, but easy-to-read book STOP!)
So if you have stuff going on in your life that you’d like to level up and get your best outcome for, come to The Source and bring your project.
I coach you to coach your brain; you coach others to coach their brain. We all help each other. We all pay it forward.