Q: It seems like everyone is jumping on the “McMindfulness” bandwagon. Should teaching mindfulness be regulated?
Mindfulness is paying attention.
My elementary school teacher taught me to sit up straight, ignore distracting thoughts, and pay attention to her.
It’s not that complicated a process.
Some mindfulness teachers will be more effective in teaching mindfulness than others.
Different mindfulness teachers will define mindfulness differently than others.
The solution to this is not regulation but educating the consumer so that they can make informed choices.
Let the free marketplace of ideas prevail. Eventually, the ones that are ineffective will fall away, but perhaps more importantly, you allow for unexpectedly good innovations to be discovered.
Q. Aren’t corporations taking a spiritual practice and corrupting it by using it just to make more money?
What motivates any corporation to provide their employees with mindfulness training is as varied and multi-faceted as what motivates any individual to use mindfulness.
Mindfulness, however, is not inherently a spiritual practice.
Mindfulness is paying attention on purpose. That’s all.
What you do with mindfulness, your intention, or purpose, is a separate issue.
Mindfulness practice is of great value to a stamp collector.
It can be used to enhance your spiritual path, or your professional path.
You decide what you want to use it for.
The research seems to show, however, that practicing mindfulness is good for employees. It makes them happier and healthier.
Should we discourage corporations from offering something that makes employees happier and healthier just because the side effect is that it makes the company more profitable?
Q: How is B-Sync Mindfulness practice different from any other form of mindfulness practice?
Mindfulness is just paying attention on purpose.
It is your intention that differentiates your practice.
The intention of some practices is to get you to a place where you have no thoughts for the duration of your meditation.
The intention of B-Sync Mindfulness is to get you to a place where you are living your best possible, most value-fulfilling life.
I want you to have distracting thoughts during meditation. That way you get to practice being aware of your thoughts, and choosing where to focus your attention.
You become more aware of your thoughts during the day and that’s one medium your deeper nonconscious mind uses to suggest the best path forward for you. So I don’t want you to ignore them.
On the other hand, mindfulness is like a flashlight. If you wake up in the middle of the night and your intention is to go to the bathroom, you can use your flashlight to find the best path forward.
Something off your path might catch your attention, but you want to be able to choose to turn your flashlight back to your original path.
The intention of some mindfulness practices is to get you to a place of nonjudgement.
B-Sync Mindfulness is about moving you towards living your best possible, most fulfilling life so I’m not concerned with you making judgments. I am concerned with you being able to distinguish between what’s real (what’s going on) and any story (assumption, judgment) that you are making about what’s real.
You can go ahead and make your judgment as long as you realize that it is just a story about reality and not reality itself.
The intention of some mindfulness practices is to get you to a place where you are always focused in the present moment.
B-Sync Mindfulness is more concerned with your “Purpose,” what is your intention in the present moment?
If you are at the movies with someone, what will provide you with more value-fulfillment, paying attention to your companion, or paying attention to the movie?
It depends upon you. Sometimes you'll find more value fulfillment by losing yourself in the eyes of someone you love.
B-Sync Mindfulness practice is only useful if you use it; if you practice it regularly. That’s why using the STOP technique throughout your ordinary day is so powerful. Accessing the Unconscious Thought Advantage of your deeper self becomes an integral part of your approach to life.
Copyright 2016 by Peter M Fellows. All Rights Reserved.
COMMON PRESS QUESTIONS ON MINDFULNESS
(Also: some of my media clips)
A Talk About
Preserving Historic Buildings
Sponsored by League of Women Voters
December 01, 2015
Q: All we seem to hear about is the wonderful benefits of mindfulness. Isn’t there a danger in mindfulness being perceived as a “cure-all?”
Mindfulness is very popular and therefore it is the subject of a tremendous number of studies: what happens in their brain when people practice mindfulness? what happens in their body? in their daily life?
And what the research is finding is that a lot of good things happen when people practice mindfulness that don’t otherwise happen.
Although it might make mindfulness look like a “cure-all,” that is not the case.
When you practice mindfulness you are practicing paying attention. What you are seeing with improved health is one of the benefits of becoming more aware of what’s going on.
There is a sort of chain reaction.
Because you are more aware (mindful) of your thoughts, you notice that some of them cause you to feel stressed.
The act of noticing that, interrupts the flow of stressful thoughts.
That interruption reduces your stress.
When you feel less stressed you make better decisions, you are more productive, you get along better with other people, and you suffer less ill health.
Of course other practices will help you get those benefits too: good diet, exercise, social interaction, and sleep, for example.
And mindfulness helps with those practices too because it makes you more aware of what you are actually doing in regards to your diet, exercise, social interaction, and sleep.
Mindfulness only appears to be a “cure-all” because it reduces stress and so many ailments are stress related.
Q: Everyone talks about the benefits of mindfulness. Are there any negative side effects to mindfulness?
Say you are in a relationship, but you are not very aware. Then you start practicing mindfulness and you become more aware, and one of the things that you become aware of is that your significant other is having an affair.
That might not feel good, but it is not a “negative side effect” of mindfulness.
Or, perhaps, since practicing mindfulness, you are paying more attention to your body as you dry off after showering, and so you become aware of a skin cancer.
That might be very frightening, but it is hardly a “negative side effect” of mindfulness.
It is instead a benefit.
Now you’re aware of a situation you need to deal with, so you can ask yourself, “What should I do about this, that I can do about it?”
And then you do that.
A Television Interview About My Book
on Know Your Neighbor w/Sunny Goldberg
January 17, 2014
Q: Some experts are advocating that mindfulness be taught to school children. Should we allow what is essentially a Buddhist religious practice to be taught in public schools?
Buddhists may use mindfulness in their practices to enhance their spiritual path but mindfulness is not Buddhist.
Mindfulness is paying attention on purpose.
Teaching school children how to pay attention to what’s being taught, to what they are thinking and feeling, to how they are behaving, to what’s going on...is probably a good thing.
Research seems to suggest this is so.
A Television Discussion About
The 1925 Mamaroneck Playhouse Theatre on The Local Live with
Maura Carlin & Rebecca Berman
May 08, 2014
A Radio Interview About
B-Sync Purpose-driven Mindfulness
on Sunday Cafe with Laura Smith
November 08, 2015
Peter M Fellows B-Sync Mindfulness
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